40 lessons I am taking into my 40s.

I have to admit I was terrified of turning 40, I mean it just sounds so.... OLD.

and then i started to panic because most day i dont even feel grown up, i still feel like im muddling through life hoping Im doing a good job. But i have reflected and though I dont always feel like it, Im the same as the 22 year old me I sometimes feel I am on the inside.

so heres some lessons I have learned along the way....

40 things I ve learned at 40

1. You are more capable than you think.
"She believed she could, so she did."

2. Friendship is quality over quantity.
"Better one loyal friend than a hundred acquaintances."

3. There will be people that don't like you—accept it.
"You’re not everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay."

4. For some, you will be too much of something.
"Too loud, too soft, too bold—be you anyway."

5. You can survive on a lot less sleep than you think (just not forever).
"This too shall pass—rest will come."

6. No one fully knows what they are doing.
"We’re all just figuring it out as we go."

7. Most of us are hoping we’re doing the right things.
"Progress over perfection."

8. Being willing to say 'I don’t know' is one of your greatest assets.
"Humility opens doors pride never could."

9. Time over money.
"You can always make more money—but not more time."

10. Stay in your lane.
"Run your race, not theirs."

11. Having a plan is a good thing.
"A goal without a plan is just a wish." – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

12. Reaching for something good matters.
"Dreams are the seeds of purpose."

13. You have to say no to some things to say yes to the right things.
"Every ‘yes’ is a ‘no’ to something else—choose wisely."

14. Never stop learning.
"Be a lifelong student—growth is your superpower."

15. You are in control of the words you speak.
"Speak life—your words carry weight."

16. Find and use your gifts.
"Your gifts weren’t given to stay hidden."

17. Do hard things.
"Growth rarely happens in comfort zones."

18. Just embrace who you are and who you’re not—and make peace with it.
"Comparison steals joy; authenticity gives peace."

19. The only way to fail is to not try… everything else is an opportunity to learn.
"Fall seven times, stand up eight." – Japanese Proverb

20. No one is thinking about you as much as you think they are.
"People are too busy with their own worries to be watching yours."

21. It’s never too late to change.
"New seasons bring new chances."

22. God is a God of process, not instant gratification.
"Faith grows in the waiting."

23. You need to laugh more.
"Joy is holy medicine."

24. Your 40-year-old body will thank you for how you treated it in your 20s.
"Invest now, reap later."

25. Most people are focused more on themselves than anything else.
"You are not under a spotlight—relax."

26. Wear what makes you feel good—who cares if it’s in?
"Confidence is always in style."

27. People over stuff.
"Things fade—relationships matter."

28. The world’s ideals are not necessarily God’s best for you.
"Don’t trade truth for trends."

29. Shake off the “shoulds.”
"Live by calling, not by comparison."

30. Take risks.
"Faith is spelled R-I-S-K." – John Wimber

31. It’s not too late to start something new. “

New beginnings aren’t limited by age, only by courage.”

32. A small circle of friends is ok. 

33. You are not missing out as much as you think you are. FOMO fades when you’re living in alignment and odedience

34. The quiet life is underrated. Peace will always outperform hustle.”

35. We are all here wondering if this is was adulting looks like because it seems like our parents had it WAY more together at 40.“Spoiler: no one has it all figured out—we’re all just making it up as we go.”

36. You won’t please everyone—and you weren’t meant to.
"Even Jesus had critics—so why do we expect any different?"

37. Contentment is a practice, not a destination.
"Gratitude turns what we have into enough."

38.Your story has power—even the messy chapters.
"God wastes nothing, not even the hard bits."

39. Legacy matters more than likes.
"Your influence is measured in lives touched, not metrics gained."

40.The best is yet to come.

So heres to jumping into a new season, expectant and ready for more!